What is The 30 Day Challenge? It’s a promise that your personal and professional life can radically improve in a 30 day period by incorporating the simple principles of The Validation Experiment™ into your daily life. It’s also an invitation to experiment to test and prove the promise to yourself! Let’s take a closer look.
validation: the act of validating; finding or testing the truth of something; to prove valid; show or confirm the validity of something; to give evidence for;
experiment: to conduct a test or investigation; to try something new, in order to gain experience; a venture at something new or different;
We all have a need for validation, a need to know that a job was well done, or that we are attractive, valued, and wanted. In the mad rush of daily life it’s easy to overlook this basic fact, especially when we’re focused on our own needs and our own hectic schedules. The Validation Experiment™ takes aim at making a difference for others for the sake of making the world a better place to live. Weaving The Validation Experiment™ practices into your life positively impacts you and your world, and leaves you feeling like a success at the end of the day. The difference you’ve made stays with people, extending to their friends and families. Take a moment to reflect on this, and begin to see how profound it really is.
There is an epidemic in our nation. People fight and scratch and claw from the cradle to the grave, many of them never finding peace or joy. Try this experiment: Ask people things like “Hey what’s good?” or “What’s the good word today?” and sift through the answers you get. The easiest answer people give is either “It’s Friday!” or “It’s almost Friday!” or “At least it’s not Monday!”. After that you’ll likely hear about the economy, the politicians, the state, the feds, the banks, the fat cats, unfair labor practices, taxes, people getting sick and dying, car problems, money problems, kid problems, house problems, and spouse problems. Yes, and remember that’s the answer to “What’s good?”! Don’t even think about asking someone “What’s bad in the world today?”!
It’s not just the discouraged, beat-down, hopeless masses that need validation. Everybody needs it! From the young to the old. Even those “positive” people. Inside of everyone there is a little child, wide-eyed with wonder, trying to get out! We do a great job of suppressing it as we age: toe the line buddy; take care of business; work hard; this is serious; don’t color outside the lines; keep to yourself; don’t express yourself. Society does a good job at establishing all those rules. We’re not out to change all that at once. We’re out to encourage people along the way, one individual at a time.
What’s missing is appreciation, gratitude, gratefulness, thankfulness, paying it forward, doing a good deed, not worrying about who gets the credit, other-mindedness, taking care of the poor, the widows, the orphans, thinking about others, humility, fairness, generosity, giving, caring, sharing, kind words, encouragement, love, peace, joy, patience, faithfulness, goodness, gentleness, self-control, and the list does go on and on and on.
“The purpose of life is not to be happy–but to matter, to be productive, to be useful, to have it make some difference that you have lived at all.” ~Leo Rosten
The only way this is going to happen is if you make it happen! In addition to the list above which doesn’t need any explanation, here are some simple ways to validate people. And remember, you’ll have to go out on a limb to do this, be brave, and open your mouth and say something good! You have to! You’ll be amazed at the reactions you get. Worst case, someone looks you in the eye and tells you to get lost, and that’s rare.
In Your Personal Life
- Take time to thank the people in your life that bless you and make your life great. Be specific about it. Be genuine and original, make it about them.
- Show gratitude for kind deeds done for you: a card, a kind word, a thank you.
- Be appreciative of the blessings that flow into your life every day. Notice and say something about not only the huge things, but the simple, little things that your friends, family, and coworkers do that make a positive difference in your life.
- Become a people watcher. Acknowledge people for good deeds you see them doing: a parent showing a child kindness in the store.
- Children: Thank your parents! Be respectful. Bless them. Honor them!
- Thank the service people in your life. Grocery clerks and baggers, parking lot attendants, folks at drive-up windows, toll booths, your neighbors, babysitters, delivery people.
- Thank our veterans and active duty service people. They served so we can enjoy freedom on our own soil, on our own terms. This is amazing in and of itself.
- Thank and appreciate your vendors, service people, receptionists, delivery people, vending machine crew, cleaning crew. Every one is needed.
- Acknowledge the ordinary. The employee who shows up every day, on time, and does their job with quality and care. Just imagine the possibilities and watch them be inspired and rise to the occasion.
- From time to time, communicate with your customers without asking them to buy anything.
- Say a kind or encouraging word to someone who is simply going their business on the job, and doing a good job of it.
- Send cards! Make a point of remembering (or writing down) names and send a card or post card to the store or business’s manager thanking them for the great interaction you had with <name the person>. Tell them they’re the reason you’ll be back to do business there again. Take time to call regional managers and tell them what’s good about the location you do business with.
We promise it this make a positive impact on your life and the lives of those around you. Genuinely validating and appreciating the people you run into throughout the day goes a long way toward you arriving at home in a much better frame of mind, and passing that on to your family!
“The deepest principle in human nature is the craving to be appreciated.” – Dale Carnegie
We’re challenging you to take on validating others for 30 days, and to scientifically record your observations of the results. How does it make those you interact with feel? How does it make you feel? Keep track of not only new opportunities, openings, and connections that come into your life, but deeper, more genuine connections with those you live, love, and work with everyday as a result of applying this.
We’re challenging you to take on validating others for 30 days, and to scientifically record your observations of the results. How does it make those you interact with feel? How does it make you feel? Keep track of not only new opportunities, openings, and connections that come into your life, but deeper, more genuine connections with those you live, love, and work with as a result of applying this.
We’ve developed a worksheet to get you started. You will establish a baseline, track your progress, and compare changes to the baseline after the 30 days. We promise it will make a positive impact on your life and the lives of those around you. Validating and appreciating the people you run into throughout the day goes a long way toward you arriving at home in a much better mood and frame of mind, and passing that on to your family!
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